This has been a year of change for my family-my daughter got married, bringing a wonderful son-in-law and two beautiful granddaughters to the family.  We have or will shortly have two baby boys added to the East Texas family, we have regained relationships that were flagging, and I guess the biggest change- has been the living arrangements for our grandson Josh, he has chosen to go live with his father.  I'm sure that this will have an impact on the time he will get to spend with us, and our involvement in his life.  But, it was his choice and life does go on.  I wish him well and hope he is happy. 
I struggled with his decision, even though I could not do anything about it, I felt in some strange way that he had betrayed my husband and me.   I am very good at saying "don't worry about things you can't do anything about "good advice, hard to follow.  Thanks to my sister, Jan, I came to realize that all this had nothing to do with me, or Tony, or even our daughter, it was all about Josh.  It is time for me to let go, stop worrying about things I can't control and move on.  Josh is a good kid, smart and kind hearted, he'll be fine.